"because I was inspired to become the best version of myself"
That is the key..
The overall list is great. I would only add 'shared adventures' to it. If you are interested to see how far can you get please feel free to read: https://substack.com/@applenotfar/p-196880519
This resonates with me so deeply! Sometimes I feel the same about the way I was raised and the impact it has on me. Sometimes I act or say something to my kids and I think “this is exactly what was done to me” and I don’t want to repeat it.
I love all the values you mentioned. This is truly a guide to parenting with love and kindness. ❤️
Thanks so much for your comment. I love seeing how deeply this resonates.
There’s something powerful about parents coming back to connection and changing the way they relate to their kids. And as a homeschooler, I can imagine how essential that is for you, since learning and connection go hand in hand.
Love this! I am always amazed that moms from all walks of life but raised similarly end up on this path of putting connection and respect, growth mindset as our top values to teach our kids. I have been doing connection time with my son daily for 5 years. He’s 12 now. The reason we started was because I got tired of us yelling at each other! Now we hang out and talk about everything. Connection is truly the key and why I decided to combine parenting and home organizing. Connection is where it begins.
You are absolutely right about there being no other way except connection. I love Laura Markham’s work. There’s a lot of natural overlap with the Dooley Method — especially the nervous-system awareness, the connection-first sequence, and the move away from compliance-based tools.
We are not raising robots. We are building relationships. But between our own emotional regulation, reparenting, unlearning what we’ve been socialized to do - I just recorded a podcast with a therapist who specializes in the mental load and we talked about the socializing aspect a lot - parenting is only one piece of that puzzle. And when connection is the priority, you become more comfortable with navigating the ever changing dynamics.
My son is 11, and I’ve had a similar experience. I got tired of feeling triggered every step of the way and knew there had to be another way.
Then I found Laura Markham’s newsletter and started applying what I learned. Everything changed after that.
We struggled a lot with home organization, too. That’s why your content resonates with me. Because connection is the basis for everything. In my experience, there’s really no other way.
"because I was inspired to become the best version of myself"
That is the key..
The overall list is great. I would only add 'shared adventures' to it. If you are interested to see how far can you get please feel free to read: https://substack.com/@applenotfar/p-196880519
That’s a great addition to the list!
Thank you for adding that.
This resonates with me so deeply! Sometimes I feel the same about the way I was raised and the impact it has on me. Sometimes I act or say something to my kids and I think “this is exactly what was done to me” and I don’t want to repeat it.
I love all the values you mentioned. This is truly a guide to parenting with love and kindness. ❤️
That is exactly the feeling ❤️
Thank you, Bruna, ❤️
I appreciate your kind words, and I am so excited and happy to connect with other mothers who see parenting in a similar way.
It feels we're creating a new world.
This
Connection comes first, teaching later
Thanks so much for your comment. I love seeing how deeply this resonates.
There’s something powerful about parents coming back to connection and changing the way they relate to their kids. And as a homeschooler, I can imagine how essential that is for you, since learning and connection go hand in hand.
Love this! I am always amazed that moms from all walks of life but raised similarly end up on this path of putting connection and respect, growth mindset as our top values to teach our kids. I have been doing connection time with my son daily for 5 years. He’s 12 now. The reason we started was because I got tired of us yelling at each other! Now we hang out and talk about everything. Connection is truly the key and why I decided to combine parenting and home organizing. Connection is where it begins.
You are absolutely right about there being no other way except connection. I love Laura Markham’s work. There’s a lot of natural overlap with the Dooley Method — especially the nervous-system awareness, the connection-first sequence, and the move away from compliance-based tools.
We are not raising robots. We are building relationships. But between our own emotional regulation, reparenting, unlearning what we’ve been socialized to do - I just recorded a podcast with a therapist who specializes in the mental load and we talked about the socializing aspect a lot - parenting is only one piece of that puzzle. And when connection is the priority, you become more comfortable with navigating the ever changing dynamics.
My son is 11, and I’ve had a similar experience. I got tired of feeling triggered every step of the way and knew there had to be another way.
Then I found Laura Markham’s newsletter and started applying what I learned. Everything changed after that.
We struggled a lot with home organization, too. That’s why your content resonates with me. Because connection is the basis for everything. In my experience, there’s really no other way.